Why You Need Confidence Rather Than Validation

Maybe you’ve been there, desperate for someone to hear your story, learn about you before they’ve asked many questions, or begged for attention after being ignored by someone you think you need some level of approval from. Most of us have been there, and it’s not typically a proud moment. No one wants to beg for attention. So why do it, and how do you stop?

The question is this: Why do you want people to know so much about you when they haven’t even asked? Why do you want to lay into someone who isn’t showing any interest? What drives this desire for validation from people when you need to heal your insecurities and become more confident?

Before you overexpress yourself:

• Reveal all your dark secrets.
• Risk your reputation by trying to be “transparent.”
• Keep in mind that transparency doesn’t mean pouring your dirt out to the world and demanding respect for being “raw and honest.”

Some things should be kept private or between only you and your closest friends and family.

In all honesty, I understand the feeling of wanting to be heard and accepted by those you admire and love. That is only natural. Sometimes we need a release when it comes to our emotions, as things weigh on us if we don’t take proper measures to…