The Modern Dating Struggle: Why More Women Are Choosing Solitude Over Situationships

In a world where swiping right seems to dictate our romantic destiny, a new trend is emerging among modern women.


As we delve into the complexities of contemporary dating, it’s becoming increasingly clear that many women are opting for a path less traveled, one of self-discovery and solitude over ambiguous and non-committal ‘situationships’.

In this article, we’ll explore this phenomenon to understand why many women are choosing to step back from the dating scene. Is it a silent protest against the transient nature of modern relationships, or is it a deeper journey toward self-love and fulfillment?

As a mid-thirties woman navigating the intricate tapestry of dating in the 21st century, I can attest: that it’s a veritable jungle out there. Each swipe and message brings the thrill of possibility and the specter of yet another disappointment. In this ever-evolving landscape of modern love, where ghosting is as common as first dates and ‘situationships’ often replace relationships, a new trend is emerging among women like me.

We are increasingly choosing solitude as our sanctuary, a place where we can rediscover ourselves away from the chaos of half-hearted courtships.

The Modern Dating Struggle: Why More Women Are Choosing Solitude Over Situationships
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The Rise of “Demasculated” Men

First, let’s talk about the elephant in the room: the perception of “emasculated” men. In a society increasingly embracing gender fluidity, where does that leave traditional gender roles? There’s nothing wrong with a man embracing his softer side, but there’s a fine line between being sensitive and passive.

Many women I’ve spoken with feel that the men they meet lack the confidence and assertiveness they seek. We’re not asking for a knight in shining armor, but a little chivalry and decisiveness wouldn’t hurt.

Situationships Over Relationships

The term “situationship” has become the buzzword of the decade. It’s an undefined, uncommitted, and generally unsatisfying romantic relationship.



Jennifer | Wellness & Self-Improvement

Passionate about self-growth & holistic wellness. I share insights on lifestyle & self-care via my podcast, LIFE REFINED.