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How to Reclaim Your Life and Stop People Pleasing
5 min readDec 9, 2021
Are you someone who tries to satisfy everyone around you? Do you struggle to find intrinsic motivation for your actions? When individuals try to persuade you to do something for or with them, do you usually give in?
If you responded yes to any of these questions, you might be stuck in a destructive cycle of pleasing others.
Your life is yours, and it should not be lived solely for the benefit of others. So what’s the best way to get out of this tangle?
Here are eleven strategies for reclaiming your life and ceasing to please others.
- Let go of negative emotions and thoughts. Negative emotions can cloud your judgment. They are the polar opposite of those who should be advising you. Instead, they transport you to a world that will only get darker and more dangerous with each passing day. Therefore, it would be beneficial to learn to control your negativity and concentrate on positive thoughts.
- Don’t let fear and guilt control your choices. If you’re a people-pleaser, you’re probably concerned about what will happen if you stop going out of your way to make others happy. You might be afraid that everyone will turn against you, that no one will want to be your friend, or that others will despise you for…