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How to Handle Conflicts and Disagreements in a Relationship

Jennifer McDougall
7 min readJan 2, 2023

Conflict is unavoidable in any relationship but doesn’t have to be destructive. Learn how to fight fair and keep your relationship strong.

How to Handle Conflicts and Disagreements in a Relationship
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Pick a space for talking about it.

When you decide to talk about it, pick a completely neutral space. Choose a place where you can both be comfortable.

It’s essential that both parties feel calm and relaxed when you start discussing disagreements — and preferably not too hungry either. When our blood sugar drops, we become more likely to get defensive and less likely to listen objectively; we also tend not to want to admit when we’re wrong as quickly under these conditions (since realizing it could mean giving up something).

Be sure neither person has had anything substantial within 3 hours before starting this process; otherwise, they’ll argue over who gets the last cookie while waiting for their blood sugar levels to return.

Decide how you want to approach the conversation.

Now that you’ve thought about your feelings, thoughts, and needs, it’s time to think about how you want to approach the conversation with your partner. Here are some tips:

  • Be calm but firm. Try not to get emotional or defensive…

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Jennifer McDougall
Jennifer McDougall

Written by Jennifer McDougall

Host of Life Refined podcast 🎙️ Personal Growth | Self-Improvement | Wellness 💡 Helping you level up your mindset & life. https://linktr.ee/jenmcdougall

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