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Clues Someone is a Keeper: Green Flags in a Relationship
If you’re in a relationship, you’ll want to look for the green flags that tell you this person is worth your time and energy — not just now but long-term.
I’m talking about qualities that strengthen a relationship, such as honesty and respect. Here are some clues that someone might be a keeper:
They’re not only willing to talk about the hard stuff, but they want to.
They are willing to have difficult conversations and have no problem discussing their feelings. They aren’t afraid of being vulnerable, specifically regarding their emotions. If a partner doesn’t want to talk about what’s essential for you in your relationship or is unwilling to hear your concerns, this is a huge red flag that there’s something wrong with how they approach relationships and challenges in their life.
If someone has trouble opening up and sharing their feelings with others, it can be tough on both sides of the conversation — for them, because they’re hiding who they are; and for you, because you’re missing out on knowing all there is to know for complete understanding. It can also lead to resentment later on if issues arise between the two of you. When issues arise, you must communicate calmly about the problems you’re experiencing.
