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How to Turn a Casual Relationship into a Secure One
You’re in a casual relationship, and you want to make it more serious. But, you’ve got questions about how to do that, how to know if your partner feels the same way about making things more serious, and what’s even involved in making a relationship more serious than just casual dating.
Start talking about things outside your relationship, like family and work.
When you’re in a casual relationship, it’s easy to put your entire self-worth on the line. You don’t want to be hurt, so you avoid letting people know who you are and what you care about. You may not even know how to talk about yourself without revealing too much. But if you open up slowly, over time, it will make your partner feel more secure in the relationship without feeling like they’re being bombarded with information all at once.
Start talking about things outside your relationship, like family and work. Talk about what you’re doing in your life — the projects that excite or challenge you; where else around town or on vacation have been great places to visit or spend time; how difficult a decision was to make at work today… you get the idea! If something specific is happening right now that’s important to either of you, talk about it openly: “I’m taking this position because…” “I think this…
